9th grader receiving derogatory comments daily

[Janis]

This 9th grader has ASD, ADHD, plus.  He has no friends and has been bullied for years.  Now 1 year in this state/district where they say he doesn’t qualify for Speech and Language (had from k-8 then PA eval said he doesn’t qualify ).  He speaks loud and fast, his social skills are very poor:(.  The social skills instruction district is providing is minimal, vague, and not effective.  Of course, district does not agree.

Since starting HS in September, he has repeatedly been called things like “stuttering autistic freak”, “you walk like an autistic freak” while acting this out, “effing stupid”, “sped”, etc.  School is aware.  He has been physically shoved and slapped.  
Recently there has been a student who sits at his table in one class who tells him to “shut up stupid” and over the past week has called him “r*****” twice.

He does not want to go tell the teacher (I understand why).  When I meet with school staff they say he has to tell the teacher.  These are Gen ed teachers.  
I know this is not the right placement, and the IEP is a mess (now have an advocate on board), but 1. what can I do to help him? And 2. What can/should the school be doing?

Until he gets interventions with speech and social skills that help, this will keep happening:(.

And, from what my kids report daily, there are constant “jokes” about race, ethnicity, etc.  Accents are used for mimicking stereotypes, “gay” is constantly thrown around as derogatory, nazi songs away from the teacher in band, etc.  I won’t give specific examples because they are shocking and disgusting.  
Is this prevalent in other high schools?  Our middle school in California was not like this….

[Carolyn Rowlett]

I don't know much about PA, but doesn't the district have a procedure in place for reporting bullying anonymously?  Why does he have to tell the gen ed teachers?  Does the district have a school board policy on bullying and what does it say and are they following it?  I would suggest sending the school district a Gebser letter officially informing them of the bullying.  See below from Lisa's website for info on Gebser letters and other tips for dealing with bullying:

https://adayinourshoes.com/bullying-school-stop-bullying-happening/

As for placement, why is it not the correct placement?  What placement do you want?  You need to have data for a change in placement.  Is he not making sufficient progress on his IEP goals?  Can he not access the curriculum in the gen ed setting?  If not, why not?  The school district will probably want to try supports before a change in placement.

Unfortunately, you're "not in California anymore, Dorothy."  Welcome to the Rust Belt. 

[Janis]

:)!!! I am definitely not in “California” anymore!!!

IEEs are scheduled, I was able to find and hire a great advocate, so I’m working on finishing all the data that supports that the goals, interventions, and placement need to be changed.

In the meantime, my kiddo is very distressed daily about school:(. 
 

As far as anonymous reporting (they have it), how does this work?  If I report the names of kids who are doing this, I think it would be obvious who was reporting and get back to my kiddo (who is mortified and was called a snitch in earlier grades).

Will anonymous reporting be useful as a record of what is happening for us?

Coping skills were in previous IEPs and not helpful.  They were proposed in October in a manner that sounded punitive (relationship with district is strained).  Also, after discussing the “stuttering autistic freak” remark at an IEP meeting, district proposing creating a coping skills goal did not sit well; as in kiddo must learn how to cope with being called this.  He needs social skills, their online program is not helping him.  He needs speech (as the insult implies) but they pull out their trusty “not according to the ER”.

At the same meeting they said they can’t help what kids say.

I explained hostile environment to them which they followed up with an email about their best buddies program.

It is a hostile environment for my kiddo:(.  

 

Any pros and cons would be appreciated.  

[JSD24]

PA has Safe2Say.  It was put in place to report things like overhearing a classmate say they want to end it all but it definitely gets used to report bullying.  They have an app & a website for anonymous reporting.

Has social skills & pragmatics been evaluated?  These are the areas of need I've seen in kids like yours.  It's also areas I've seen schools miss.  Will not be covered by an IEE if the school hasn't already done an eval.

They might not be able to "help what kids say" but they also need to have no bullying policies in place that get enforced.  I'm guessing that the more your child is harassed, bullied & teased, the worse the stutter gets.

Is your son getting outside therapy?  An outside therapist can sometimes get the school to see how toxic the school environment is.  In PA, your child qualifies for Medicaid and that can cover outside speech therapy which might work better than school therapy.  It covers social skills too but it can be hard to find places that offer this & take Medicaid.  The application is online.  https://www.pa.gov/agencies/dhs/programs-services/apply-for-benefits