putting your daughter in a position to defend her own accommodations? Absolutely unacceptable.
I totally get wanting to educate this teacher instead of just blasting them with anger (which, let’s be honest, at times they kinda deserve). Here are a few short but impactful resources you can send:
1. The Classic: “F.A.T. City” Workshop (Frustration, Anxiety, Tension)
Video
Richard Lavoie’s “How Hard Can This Be?”
This is an eye-opening workshop where a specialist makes neurotypical teachers feel what it’s like to have a learning disability. Every teacher should be required to watch this.
2. Harvard Article: Why Neurodivergent Kids Work 2x as Hard
Article
The Twice-Exceptional Dilemma
This explains how 2e students work harder than neurotypical peers and why accommodations are essential—not a “crutch.”
3. One-Liner Response for the Future
For your daughter:
"My IEP is set up so I can access learning, not just so I can get good grades."
For the teacher:
"Accommodations don’t make learning easier—they make it possible."
Would love to hear how this goes. Hopefully, the teacher has enough self-awareness to take the hint.