The FBA was lost in all the other chaos…I just found where they only have my kiddos self-report and their school observation…..and everything is great!!!!

Are they allowed to actually say they completed a FBA without parent input?  I asked for a FBA  with the initial ER in this state.  They also did not ask for my input on any OT/sensory ratings….  
but I would think the FBA should have parent input for kiddos with ASD, adhd, etc….

It's easy to do a bad FBA.  If you observe at the wrong time or not for long enough, it will show everything's OK.  Schools are run by trained professionals (this is best practice - your district may vary).  I think we need to trust they are doing things right.  (Make me wonder if their parent input form ended up in your Spam  box.)  When you meet to go over the FBA, ask why they didn't ask for your input.  If the FBA (like any other eval) is incomplete or inaccurate, you can ask for an IEE at school expense.