My daughter has an iep meeting coming up and the time doesn't work for me but the school is unwilling to at least try and look at another time/ date...I told them tues/Thurs from 10am to 1105am I am not available in person or virtual.

I feel as though my rights are being violated. 

Your rights are being violated.  Section 300.322(a) of the IDEA regulations requires school districts to "take steps that ensure that one or both of the parents of a child with a disability are present at each IEP Team meeting..."  These steps include "Scheduling the meeting at a mutually agreed on time and place.  The only time a meeting can be held without a parent is if the school district "is unable to convince the parents that they should attend."  This is not the case in your situation.  You are very willing to attend and your only restriction is one hour on Tuesday and Thursday.  They can and should find a time where you can attend.

In addition to the IDEA, you might check to see if your state department of education has anything helpful, such as a parent guide to special education, etc.  You could even call the state and ask if this stance by the school district is unreasonable.  Send all the information you gather from the state, along with the IDEA regulation above, in an email to the school asserting your right as a parent to attend the meeting and that the time needs to be "mutually agreed" upon.