Mommytina

I have a quick question - 2 of my 3 children have IEP’s, the daughter that doesn’t is going into the 3rd grade, I did have her evaluated for an IEP, she has received RTI services every year since kindergarten. She really struggles with reading and severe anxiety which is related to her having ADHD which I did not get diagnosed but did discuss with her pediatrician but I have not felt it affects her to the level she would need medications. i did request the testing and shared that her qualifying for RTI shows that she needs more support. They did testing and said she didn’t qualify but the school psychologist gave some suggestions and she cautioned that the test results may be off because of my daughter’s anxiety, she has a hard time talking in front of unfamiliar people which made it difficult to know if she understood things or had any questions. I had requested at the end of the year that my daughter be kept in the same class as her best friend. The school agreed that she did better when had a connection in class, toward the end of the year she was even raising her hand and willing to try to read out loud. I have had a challenging relationship with the principal, there were a number of incidents some that I had to file state complaints about, just one example my son with cerebral palsy was not potty trained in kindergarten and she threatened that if he wasn’t potty trained over the summer - she would not allow him into the 1st grade. I can’t understand any good reason that she would separate the kids as they each benefited each other, there was no behavior issues, etc. I looked up research on all the impacts of nurturing positive relationships in the elementary years. I wrote an email yesterday after finding out the children were assigned different teachers. I sent the email to vice principal and the school facilitator for IEP’s asking them for any help and to request a reconsiderationb is there anything else I could or should be doing? Thank you, Tina

Hi everyone, I would appreciate anyone’s advice/suggestions, etc. My 12 year old daughter with an IEP due to her having ADHD started middle school this year. There have been numerous problems all year from her being punished and shamed for behaviors that are symptoms of ADHD (being late, not paying attention, not being prepared for class) to the fact she has failed pretty much all academic classes for both semesters, the only notes on the report card are “needs to try harder” “doesn’t pay attention” “not prepared for class”. I have communicated with the team, with individual teachers, and the special ed teacher. I’ve offered suggestions that included making sure I am aware of upcoming tests, assignments, etc. that has been a struggle even when I asked for a copy of a book that was being used in school and at home because she had lost the previous book, they didn’t respond. I even asked to get the name and author so I could get on my own but no response. When my daughter has math homework she always says she doesn’t understand, I can usually use an AI service to help so I can explain it to her but she is not grasping anything in math which has always been a challenge. I don’t want this to be too long but I have the upcoming annual, I have already suggested a functional behavior and BIP rather than continuing to punish for having ADHD. I would appreciate if I had suggestions ot ideas about what might be helpful. I also got a letter from principal letting me know my daughter was at risk for being held back. Thank you, Tina

My biggest win I would say in one sense it would be me filing a state complaint and the decision going to me but honestly by the time I actually filed the complaint I was questioning myself and my own understanding of simple English so much that the thing I wanted more than anything was for the director just to admit that my understanding of the law was actually correct and the information she gave me was not accurate. I would have rather have a simple “I’m sorry” more than anything

For some reason this was on my Home Screen. Is there new training that Lisa is doing? I have a question about RTI but I feel like there are so many bigger main problems I probably shouldn’t ask

I was able to join a club - yay!! I’m pretty sure last time I was on the site I couldn’t but I don’t understand how to start a club. I see a few states listed but not mine and I always have questions (unfortunately) I have 3 children, 2 already have IEP’s trying to get one for 3rd especially since she’s already had RTI every year she’s been in school because she struggles with reading…. I switched my youngest to homeschool this year.., im in Massachusetts though so would love a group. Tina

I love all of this I’m actually a member in Dr. Mona’s monthly membership group. I also wanted to share an app a lot of people are not aware of it’s free and it’s to help with Ross Greene’s work I always forget the name iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/lens-changer-new/id1569130814 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.livesinthebalance.lenschangers

It’s never taken me so long to figure out how to post on this site. Thank goodness I finally can. I have tried emailing Lisa a couple times but I know she gets a ton of emails every day. I need help, my son is in kindergarten, he has cerebral palsy, he has an IEP and gets PT. Thursday the team met and the principal told me my son wouldn’t be allowed in 1st grade if not potty trained without a drs note. Also the playground is not accessible. It definitely sounded like a threat about the potty training. There is a lot more details but I know I share too much so please someone tell me possible nexts steps. I’m in Massachusetts thank you, tina